Do you ever feel like nothing gets done….EVER? That you’re just pulled in a million different directions all the time? Do you feel lost, or like you’re not getting anything done?
Hey, y’all. Mrs. Crazy here.
Ever since I was a child, I have loved inspirational quotes. Every time I was given one for a lesson at church, or heard something I loved and put it on a stick note, I kept it. I eventually got to the point where my scriptures were literally twice the size they should be because they were so full of sticky notes and handouts!
I’d share a picture of them, but the binding eventually broke (whoops), and I got a new set. I took all of those quotes and put them into a journal, which I still add to (it looks similar to these here). But I want to share these quotes with you regularly, and talk about why they are important to me.
Tell me if this sounds like you: you wake up with the kids, and get them breakfast. While making breakfast, you realize the kitchen is dirty. As you clean it, you find hand towels that definitely have been there a while, so you head over to the laundry room to start a load.
On the way, you trip over shoes that your kids left on the floor after coming home from yesterday’s doctor’s visit…..which reminds you that you have some doctor and utility bills to pay. As you start to pay the bills, you realize your gas bill is way too high, so you head on over to Pinterest to find ideas on how to spend less on gas.
You get distracted by “the best brownies in the world” and “10 ways to make your home look great.” Eventually, you see a casserole that reminds you it’s time to start dinner. You head to the kitchen, only to realize it’s still messy from that morning.
See where I’m going with this? By the end of the day, you feel like you’ve gotten nothing accomplished – just started a bunch of projects. The house is still messy, the bills are still unpaid, and you gave up and had frozen pizza for dinner….for the third time that week (and it’s only Wednesday.)
In fact, your life feels like a scene from “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.”
Mine feels like that. Quite a lot. In fact, today is turning into one of those. (This post is only getting written because I made the TV a temporary babysitter.)
In fact, days upon days of this eventually turn into years where it feels like nothing is accomplished.
BUT……this post is not about how to do more. You can’t. You’re already doing so much.
Instead, this post is about how to do less!'We need to learn how to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.' ~Omar Bradley Click To Tweet
Imagine that life is journey on the ocean. You have a final destination you want to get to. What is it? I don’t mean “getting the house clean” or “be the perfect parent.”
Instead, is your final destination to be retired, with spouse and children around you? Is it to be a missionary in a third-world country?
Mine may seem a bit grandiose and cliche, but I want to be
Whatever your final destination is, you need to get there! But as you make the decisions that you do, are you setting your course by the fixed stars, or are you setting them by the lights of every ship that goes by?
Are you focusing on spending quality time together as a family, or are you distracted by each activity, camp, and sports team that comes along?
Are you so caught up on the passing ship of a clean house that day (which you know will just be that messy again tomorrow), that you miss the constant star of taking time in prayer?
Did the passing ship of the stress of getting to school on time mean you missed the star that was a teaching moment in your child’s life?
The key is to take a second and evaluate. When you start feeling stressed, overwhelmed, burdened, busy, or burned out, stop and take a breath. Ask yourself, “Is this a star? Or is a passing ship?”
If it’s a passing ship, is it really one that you want to follow?
For me, the answer is usually no. No, I don’t want to go off on this alternate path that will take me away from my final destination.
And the beauty of this is that the stars will always be there! No matter how far off-course you get, you will always have the constant starlight to help you get back on track.
Yes, cleaning the house is important. Getting to school is important. Feeding your kids is important.
And yes, PBJ’s do count – we had them for lunch and dinner twice last week. (Peanut butter has protein, bread is a grain, jam has fruit, and they had a glass of milk…..so it’s a balanced meal, right?)
But as you do all of these things, just make sure that you’re not taking on too much. Is what you’re doing helping you get to your final destination? Is the attitude you have as you do these seemingly mundane tasks helping your spouse and children reach theirs as well?
If not, what can you do to change it?
Just go stargazing.